Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

Communicating With the Narcissist (When You Have to Co-Parent)

Just Imagine. . .

How would it feel to have friendly, business-like, neutral-toned messages from your ex?

How much easier would co-parenting be?

How would it feel to not be in a constant state of turmoil and not feel like you have an enemy or your own personal terrorist?

How would it feel to be free of all the criticisms, complaints, attacks, false accusations, and negativity?

If you want this feeling of freedom from your ex, keep reading/listening.

Grace Wroldson

How-To Get the Right Lawyer When Dealing With A Narcissist

If you are in a high-conflict custody battle with a narcissist, you will need to not only be “evenly matched” in the courtroom, but also well represented and well prepared. Our custody case is often only as good as our attorney is. Not being adequately represented cost me my legal rights to the child that I was trying to protect. My former attorney, while affordable, was ill-prepared, not a family law attorney, unequipped, easily tricked (because he bargained with goodwill and sincerity), and not experienced enough to handle what happened. If you read my books, you will read that I had to stage a comeback after my brutal trial and loss. If you can avoid losing, do so

Grace Wroldson

8 Ways to Help Children with a Narcissistic Dad

We Suffered, Now They Suffer From a Narcissist...
The hard truth is that our children will struggle from having a narcissistic parent. We suffered at the hands of a narcissist, and now we see our children suffering. It’s painful to witness. The subtle types of abuse, slights, ignoring needs, dismissing wants, and disregarding feelings can infuriate us as mothers. We want to rush in and fix it.
Yet, we know we can’t change the narcissist. We also know that our children need to develop coping strategies to deal with toxic people and learn to survive. In addition, we are often in the situation of having to comply with court orders that allow this abusive person parenting rights. What an awful system! As a concerned parent, you will need to adopt/implement some strategies to help your child cope. You can help in a few ways that are within your power as a parent.

Grace Wroldson

How-To Protect Your Kids from Gaslighting and The Lies of the Narcissistic Parent

Abuse happens. And it can happen to our most beloved children. When we leave the abuser, sometimes our vulnerable children are then in a direct line of threat to being abused by our abuser. It breaks our hearts, fills us with anxiety, and gnaws at us with guilt. It can be so painful and infuriating to witness this. We often feel powerless to stop it. However, there are ways we can help.

Grace Wroldson

3 Keys to Creating Peace Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

3 Keys to Creating Peace When Co-parenting with a Narcissist

Co-parenting with a narcissist is a stressful experience. It can feel like trying to work with a terrorist. Narcissists aren’t generally team players, and the nature of selfishness often causes those of us who deal with them to get the short end of the stick. If the narcissist is abusive (often the case), and if the narcissist has deemed you the TOB (target of blame), then you might be having to deal with tactics like opposite parenting and counter-parenting. An angry narcissist creates a lot of drama, chaos, and confusion — the realm where the narcissist destabilizes the target to win.

Grace Wroldson

The Co-Parenting Abuse List

*Before you begin, please read my “Disclaimer” below. I also want to issue a “Trigger Warning.” As you read this list, it might bring up some PTSD. I had to write this list down in small doses after I had overcome the abuse. Be mindful that you may need to take a break from reading and practice self-care. I believe that the truth can set us free, so identifying the truth helped to set my mind free of the confusion I had before I caught on to what was being done to me.

Grace Wroldson

Grace For You Coaching

Since life coaching is about making actionable changes, here is a list of some of the ways that I help you get in control of your life in our life coaching calls.

Hear your story!
Validate your suffering
Acknowledge your concerns
Help you get clear on the issues and priorities
Identify what your obstacles are
Brainstorm ideas for safety and sanity
Make to-do lists
Create a healthy mind-set
Shift the focus
Teach you about important principles

Grace Wroldson

Co-Parenting Abuse When Dealing with a Narcissist

Co-parenting abuse is real. It makes parenting an awful experience. Having to walk on eggshells and be the perfect parent to not give the narcissistic parent anything to complain about is stressful and exhausting. It creates such a stressful, uncooperative environment that many parents just want to give up. I have talked to these exhausted mothers in many life coaching sessions. After all, parenting is a difficult job in itself, add to that someone coming after you at all times while you try to parent makes it almost impossible. Many mothers, including myself, have wanted to run away from the job because of how awful, horrible, and traumatizing co-parenting with a narcissist can be.

Grace Wroldson

Ongoing Custody Battle with a Narcissist #MeTooFamilyCourt

I recently wrote for Motherhood-Moment to raise awareness on family court/legal abuse by narcissists against protective parents/mothers.
I am a survivor of legal abuse. I have been in an 11-year family court custody battle with my narcissistic ex over our only child. I have had 3 separate attorneys, 3 GAL reviews/reports, 5 pediatricians, 2 psychological evaluations, over 50 court appearances, a lengthy 5-day trial, 4 different co-parenting interventions, 2 no-trespassing orders, 1 police report, and many other professionals involved in our case.

Grace Wroldson

To Fight or Not to Fight a Narcissist in Family Court?

They say, “pick your battles,” right? Well, I found this to be absolutely true. I couldn’t not fight a narcissist, because the narcissist wanted a fight. Showing up and capitulating (handing everything over) never felt good and was never enough for him. Sometimes, I had to fight.

What I needed was discernment.

Grace Wroldson

Have I Failed My Child With The Family Court System?

After one brutal loss in court, where I lost legal custody and now would only have half-time with my child going forward, I often asked myself, “Did I just fail my daughter trying to avoid legal fees?” Here's what I had to tell myself. . .

Grace Wroldson

How-To Fight a Narcissist in Family Court and Win: Super-Smart Strategies for Success

Steps to Win Against a Narcissist in Family Court

By taking these steps to win, you can make your own “loss prevention program.” Being two steps ahead of your opponent can make all the difference in outcomes. Preventing losses in family court is much better/easier than trying to appeal an unfavorable court ruling. So, please take my survivor wisdom and use it for your own good.

Grace Wroldson

Family Court Failures For Protective Parents

Did You Know? Family Court Failures

Our family courts and judges have failed us, protective mothers, by giving our child to an abuser and disbelieving us victims of domestic violence. Judges need to know what has been happening in the community they serve, as they only see what the high-powered, savvy attorneys allow them to see as evidence in court trials and hearings.

Grace Wroldson

What’s it Like to Lose in Family Court to a Narcissist?

Essentially, I was sabotaged! That's what happened to me for over a decade. I was undermined as a parent by the narcissist and made out to look crazy. I was falsely accused of so many things. Sadly, mothers like me are still losing custody and rights to their own children to controlling, arrogant, angry men. Basically, I was out-lawyered.

Grace Wroldson

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