Tips for Dealing with Narcissists as Co-Parents
By Grace W. Wroldson, author of . . .
Book 1: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: 7 Self-Rules to Stay Sane
Book 2: How To Fight a Narcissist in Family Court and Win
Book 3: Co-Parenting with a Sociopath: Survival and Sanity Guide
Book 4: How To Survive a Custody Battle with a Narcissist: When the Family Courts Force You to Co-Parent
Narcissists Make Terrible Co-Parents!
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Narcissists are manipulative and highly skilled at deception. Very often, when narcissists are backed into a corner of truth or feel threatened, they can be downright nasty. They have many tricks, tactics, and traps to victimize and re-victimize moms with narcissistic abuse, even after separation. Because of this unfortunate dynamic, we, as moms, must acquire the understanding, skills, and strategies to deal with these individuals as seamlessly as possible. Plus, we need to stay sane—-for the sake of ourselves, our children, and our custody case. However, remaining level-headed while dealing with the narcissist’s insanity is no easy feat.
To cope with the situation rationally, we need a plan in place. To help other moms endure this experience and preserve the hope to overcome it, I offer tips, tools, and strategies in my books and blogs. I write specifically for mothers who are struggling to co-parent with a narcissist and suffering what I call “Co-Parenting Abuse”—which is really a continuation of narcissistic abuse, known as post-separation abuse. The bottom line is that narcissists can abuse us while we try to co-parent with them. In fact, the narcissist will use their continued access to us as an opportunity to exert their abusive tactics whenever possible.
We Can Change the Dynamic with a Narcissistic Co-Parent
On this blog, I share my story of how I learned, healed, changed, and grew. Eventually, using what I call “Skillful-Means,” I was able to stop being the narcissist’s target of blame, stand up to him with an effective lawyer, and end the narcissist’s game–all because he no longer viewed me as his No. 1 enemy or target.
Through self-work and reflection, I outgrew many of the problems we had. My growth changed how we co-parented, which resembled parallel-parenting with a dash of cooperation (for a while before it got better and I stopped being the narcissist’s TOB). I devised a buffer and learned how to “Grey-Wall,” which is a bit more involved than the popular GreyRock Method of being as boring as a grey rock on the ground (The GreyRock Method refers to ignoring a narcissist and offering them nothing interesting about ourselves to think about). I learned to “detach and shield” from what I call “boundary backlash” when setting dozens of new boundaries using legal representation, which ultimately empowered me and protected my custody case.
Now, my mission is to help fellow moms by empowering them and telling my story. I work to raise awareness, offer my self-help solutions backed by experience, and encourage them to establish a firm system of support. We can’t just document everything and become so overwhelmed that we can’t be good, present, protective and loving moms. Instead, we need to be strategic to avoid becoming overwhelmed. We can’t just take on any lawyer for family court, just as we can’t hang onto a lawyer who is not effective, and expect the judges to rule in our favor and understand what’s really happening. We can’t just have a simple agreement or court order with a disordered, unruly narcissist.
To prevent issues, we need a comprehensive plan because there will be plenty of problems with a narcissist. We can’t expect normal behavior from an abnormal, personality-disordered person. If we are co-parenting with a narcissist, we can most likely expect a plethora of problems. It’s the unfortunate nature of the narcissist’s game: they simply don’t possess the skills to behave otherwise. And unfortunately, narcissists rarely make the effort to change.
Learn Lessons as You Try to Co-Parent with a Narcissist and Endure a Custody Battle
What are you learning about your case? What are you learning about narcissists? I learned a lot over my decade-long, high-conflict custody battle with a narcissist. I encourage you to learn through reading and watching videos to avoid some of the mistakes I made–especially mistakes with having certain expectations. I never imagined my narcissist ex would become as big of a problem as he was. However, after using skillful means, I never imagined that I could reach the level of peaceful co-parenting we now have after developing a reliable support system, legal representation, and changing myself. I outgrew many of the problems that I had with the narcissist by learning from experts in narcissism and my crisis support people, who were experienced in dealing with narcissists. The narcissist also lost interest in abusing me when I used skills to neutralize his hatred of me.
DISCLAIMER: These are helpful tips based solely on the author’s thoughts and opinions. The author is not a qualified mental health professional nor a crisis caseworker. She cannot give legal advice or appropriate counsel and is, therefore, not liable for any injury or harm. Please follow the advice of your doctor, therapist, counselor, and lawyer, coupled with your own common sense and intuition based on your unique case, to see if these tips may be helpful. This is only one mom’s story of survival. These cases are complex and full of details and history that must be considered on an individual basis. Not all tips may apply to your circumstance or case.
Best Practices for Dealing with a Narcissistic, Problematic Co-Parent
Here are some of my best, general, basic tips for dealing with a narcissist when forced to co-parent with one. (Note: please refer to the disclaimer above.)
- Get support. I didn’t survive narcissistic abuse without serious and significant help. I had a domestic violence (DV) counselor for establishing and maintaining boundaries, dealing with the co-parenting abuse, and understanding coercive control—all while wrestling with my cognitive dissonance from the trauma bonds and the narcissist’s gaslighting. I was called many demeaning names by the narcissist and mother-blamed for so many things that I was upset way too much of the time, which was his tactic. He was a pro at triggering me with false allegations and making me upset. I had to use many free 12-step programs like CODA (Codependents Anonymous) with meetings and sponsors to step into my strength and regain my sanity. I even used several YouTube channels to learn from experts on narcissism. Seek, find, and obtain the right specific support, and you too can endure and overcome the abuse. Create a support structure for yourself that you can lean on. Read in my first book how I made a “Team of Ten” in, Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: 7 Self-Rules to Stay Sane (available at Amazon).
Suggested types of support to establish:
- Venting support: only vent to a safe, trusted, confidential person like a qualified therapist (not to friends and family all the time, as they are not necessarily qualified to provide the level of support you may need).
- Legal strategy support: seek a competent family law attorney—even regular paid or free phone consultations. Look for free legal aid.
- Protection, boundaries, and healing supports: sources include a DV (domestic violence) counselor, safe-plan advocate, or trained crisis case-worker.
- Healing program and recovery support: any 12-step recovery program like CODA can help you learn about yourself, heal, fix weaknesses, learn, and become stronger. See the back of my books for the program I recommend for narcissistic abuse.
- Coaching support: coaching can help you to get organized, plan how to use your lawyer, and document the narcissist.
- Emotional support: learn to lean into/on your recovery and develop friendships through your recovery programs; find friends with like-minds and who have survived similar experiences.
- Educational support: educate yourself on the dynamics of narcissism, the tactics they use, and what narcissistic abuse syndrome is. Refer to books, videos, websites, and YouTube channels led by experts on narcissism and narcissistic abuse to understand the dynamics at play.
- Financial support: using a money coach or budgeting person to find resources—even gaining access to assistance programs for self-care and self-protection—can help you to save money in the long run, especially as you go through a legal battle with the narcissist.
2. Get a lawyer or legal consultations: even free ones where you ask your burning legal questions. We have to get our legal questions answered by lawyers. Start learning about strategy and how to articulate what strategy you decide to use. You will need to make plans with supportive, empowering people who can back you emotionally.
- Do you have a documentation strategy?
- What does the lawyer say to document in your case?
- Do you have a legal recourse strategy?
- Do you have strategies other than ignoring the narcissist?
FYI: You will need a defensive and offensive strategy in place. Defending yourself and preparing for upcoming attacks can quickly become exhausting and a serious source of stress. Do you have a strategy to turn the narcissist’s target of blame off of you? If you are wise, you can prepare your legal questions and maximize free consultations with top family law attorneys who can answer your questions and provide legal advice, even if you can’t afford a lawyer. You can also interview two to four attorneys and explain your financial position, asking for pro bono work or other help behind the scenes in just phone calls, and take out a loan to hire that attorney for just a trial date. The fact is, paperwork can make or break a custody case, so I highly recommend that you obtain solid, competent representation. Read and use my Get The Right Lawyer Guide, which has my “20-Question Interview Worksheet” for moms to print/use when preparing and doing legal consultations to maximize consultations.
3. Be very careful on social media—or leave it alone. Be sure to safeguard your custody case by limiting social media use and protecting your information from narcissists. (Do anonymous posting ONLY.) If the narcissist can read about how they ruined your day and elicited a reaction from you, it can fuel them to do further harm. It’s not only the narcissist, but their minions and “flying monkeys,” and other people they have manipulated to side with them, who can complicate matters further. These are people you may know and have a relationship with, who have been asked to watch your social media platforms and report back to the narcissist. Many moms delete accounts or use private, newly-created accounts to protect their anonymity in all-things custody and children, including me! Don’t air what’s happening in comments either, as comments are searchable when you become a member of any Facebook group. Reading what your plans are in comments can give the narcissist an upper hand in how to hurt you or make it more of a hell. Guard your emotions, safeguard your custody case, be private, and find those supportive people so that you don’t run to social media for crisis support. Having a DV counselor to call can help you to regain level-headedness (after a “vent session”) so you can use logic and common sense rather than emotions when making decisions.
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4. Adopt Self-Rules. A good rule of thumb when co-parenting problems arise is: don’t engage the narcissist when he’s abusive. We can set up what I call “Self-Rules” like, “I don’t engage unless it is directly for the kids, and I don’t respond with emotion-only logic.” We can remember that if an interaction is not court-ordered and/or about the child, we do not have to respond to every message (unless your court order says otherwise). Sometimes it’s best to give no reaction or emotion. Rather, document that he is off-topic again and make a list with dates and details of “Non-Child-Related Messages” to show a pattern of misuse.
We don’t have to plead our case with every interaction to a narcissist. If possible, and if ordered, we can use ONLY a parenting app the courts generally assign or the one you are ordered to use, to keep the conversation about the child ONLY. If we have to converse, we can keep conversations transactional and use the popular GreyRock Method or my Grey-Walling Method (coming soon!) to be business-like and boring as a strategy to minimize interactions and conflict. When we aren’t battling the disrespect, insincerity, and angry attacks of the narcissist, we can thrive and be better moms to our children.
Setting up Self-Rules helps eliminate some of the stress. Move from reactionary to responsive. One of my rules is, “I save it for therapy” when he does something that’s truly awful and sets me off emotionally. I found that it’s completely normal to react to abnormal people and threats to my child.
5. Start accumulating leverage and figuring out what matters to the narcissist. We all have our weak spots and things we don’t want to lose. For the narcissist, it’s his narcissistic supply. This can come in different forms depending on the narcissist, like money, assets, houses, properties, image, social standing, jobs, etc. For us, it’s usually our children and time with our child. Know what matters to the narcissist. List the leverage or keep track of what you need to, so your lawyer can use it in negotiations, hearings, four-ways, pre-trials, and trials.
6. Carefully respond (not react) when co-parenting with a narcissist. It’s wise to draft your replies and run them by your support people (therapist, strategy coach, or lawyer) before sending them. Taking this extra step can help ensure that you don’t overshare, justify, explain, or defend, but state facts. If your lawyer advises you to, it may be wise to refute any false allegations with simple statements such as, “That’s not true.” I often had to take three full days to reflect and cool off before replying to the narcissist’s attacks, mother-blaming, and nonsense. But if your court order says you need a 24-hour reply, follow your court order or lawyer’s recommendations. Each case is different and unique. You may want to draft a few general responses that are safe and your “go-tos.”
7. Document strategically. What do you think is most important? Having a documentation plan to show a pattern of behavior with numbered lists, complete dates, times, and details. Learn to label the tactics of the narcissist. When you can name it, it reduces its power to confuse and destabilize you. Use my Co-Parenting Abuse List Blog to be able to identify what you are suffering through. Ask your lawyer what you need to document and show to the courts that will matter in your case. You can start documenting behavior patterns in categories and be able to sort out some of the confusing craziness. Put the narcissist in their box, so to speak! Then, move on with your day. Be able to shift gears and avoid dead-ends to your day.
- Use a co-parenting app. If possible, get your court-ordered, co-parenting communication off your personal phone and email, and into an app where a third party can read the back-and-forths and monitor interactions. This step can help avoid headaches and give you an advantage in court. Ask your lawyer if you can begin using this (to get familiar with it) and which app your judge prefers to order. Then, ask if your lawyer can invite the other parent officially so that you can start updating the calendar and inputting information. Sometimes being proactive and appearing as if we are trying to better the co-parenting conditions can show a judge that we are the reasonable (not high-conflict) parent. Personally, I use the app even if he doesn’t and it safeguards against PA (parental alienation) claims that narcissists typically and falsely accuse mothers of doing.
- Anticipate the narcissist’s bad behavior and non-compliance with the court order. Don’t expect the narcissist to do what a “nice dad” would do to help out. Be a few steps ahead with your planning to not have to rely on the narcissist to make it to work or to be on time for work or some important event. Accept that he is a high-conflict personality and will be difficult when he wants to be and/or feels the need to assume power. Watch out for what you rely on the narcissist for, because it can set you up to be late to work and other appointments. Be smart and plan around the narcissist. We can also document any contempt that the narcissist is in and bring these to our attorney who may want to file motions and hold the narcissist accountable. See my “Legal Strategies” blog.
- Remember that you are a good mom. Don’t let any of the narcissist’s criticism get to you. The narcissist may try to attack how you parent, but that’s one of their ways to elicit an emotional reaction out of you. The narcissist uses emotion as a tool to control the situation and place you in a vulnerable state, but this does not mean their allegations carry any truth. Learn to pause, process, and respond using legal guidance. Often, we keep our custody cases safe when we stop reacting emotionally. Having the right support people selected and installed in your situation can keep you from stewing and prevent the narcissist’s tactics from festering in your mind. It can be very validating to have someone tell you that you are doing a good job in a tough situation. We can give ourselves approval on a daily basis. We don’t ever need the narcissist’s approval; it wouldn’t be genuine anyway. Their insincere praise would be just another control tactic.
11. Remember the narcissist’s behavior is only a reflection of their own problems and weaknesses. We are not responsible for the narcissist, their personal issues, and/or how they conduct themselves. We have to detach fully from their drama. Narcissism is a personality disorder, which means there will be dis-order. Narcissists struggle with being truthful and staying out of trouble, unless they can see a personal gain for themselves. They are typically high-conflict people who sabotage others and themselves in the process, but they can’t see around corners, have many blindspots, and don’t think long-term. Even if they look like they are doing well, they aren’t. There are many good reasons why we chose to leave a relationship with a narcissist. Let all their awful behavior remind you that the choice you made to end that relationship and break free was the right one.
12. Get specific therapy. Find healing programs specific for narcissistic abuse. Try them. Do them. Prioritize your healing. Look for knowledgeable DV counselors who understand abusers and their tactics. Move from victimhood to victory. Shift from survivor to smart-thriver. I believe that our healing directly affects our children for the better. Do the healing programs. Pour your energy into you, yourself, your healing, and your child/children.
13. Self-protect. If the narcissist is abusive, it may be wise to not make eye contact with them and not respond to them directly—if you have to transfer children. Do all communication in writing. If they become abusive or erratic, record or document their behavior. We can practice self-preservation and make a plan to deal with them. Learn how to start using neutralizing statements, if direct verbal communication is needed at all. Get the restraining orders or protection orders needed. There were times that I had to be brave and get No Trespassing Orders to send a clear message of boundaries.
14. Make boundaries. We need to establish boundaries, buffers, and firewalls for ourselves and our children against narcissistic abuse. It’s not typically effective to tell a person who disrespects others to respect our boundaries; it only sets us up for disappointment. Instead, we need to set boundaries with ourselves by determining what we will say and not say, do and not do. This situation will call for many firmly set self-rules, boundaries, and legal stances. Write down the boundaries that you need to make in your case.
15. Don’t believe a word the narcissist says; always fact-check them. Narcissists lie. Narcissists tell half-truths. Narcissists twist facts and spin stories to lead people astray as a tactic. As a result, we must have zero expectations from them. Rather, we must always be ready to switch our plans if they’re supposed to have your child for the day, weekend or week. Not believing them, because we know they are flawed, faulty, and disordered, is certainly frustrating, but it will help us in the long-run if they’re a no-show for their scheduled parenting-time.
16. Do not rely on the narcissist for monetary help. Even if you have child support established by the courts, always be sure you can provide what your child needs. Find and utilize assistance programs and let go of any pride you have. If the narcissist comes up with any money towards the child, then you can just use that towards the next thing your child will need. It’s better not to rely on an unreliable person. It’s not wise to depend on a narcissist’s money or support because it is their supply and they are selfish and unsympathetic non-givers by nature. Also, there is always the chance for the narcissist to use their “generosity” against you during a future attempt to regain control.
17. Stop emotional outpouring and over-explaining. Feeding the narcissist our fear is dangerous. Sharing our weaknesses or problems can lead us into trouble because the narcissist will often use this information against us. I gave no intel, info, or details because it gave him ammunition. Also, I learned to show no emotion around him. I don’t react to the narcissist’s drama because that is the fuel that drives them. If we starve them of our attention, they usually will go elsewhere to stir up trouble and leave us alone.
At first, when he was overly abusive in person, I didn’t acknowledge the narcissist to create a boundary for myself unless it was absolutely necessary. I learned to avoid further narcissistic abuse by keeping my answers very short and to the point. I learned to only answer questions that pertained to our child. I initiated self-awareness and self-discipline to not let it go past that. If necessary, and if possible, you may want to get a court-ordered No-Contact Order using a capable attorney. Some abusers are just not able to control themselves. Keep in mind: this is why we have jails.
18. Get better at planned, controlled communication. Learn and develop skills. Read how I used Skillful-Means. If communication is constant and offensive, try implementing as little communication as possible. If you are frustrated with the narcissist, document the reasons that led to your frustrations. It’s not wise to attempt to make them co-parent. Often, it’s smarter to just respond with “okay” to whatever the conversation is (but be sure you are not saying OK to something you are not okay with). There is generally little productive communication with a narcissist, no matter how simple you think the topic is. Watch my communication video and read my blogs on how I survived communicating with a narcissist when I was his target of blame and before I hired a competent lawyer who took an offensive approach to my custody battle (not just a defensive approach). Keep communication simple because they tend to thrive in the complex nightmare of word battles, word salad, and circular conversations.
19. Prioritize your child—even if the narcissist doesn’t. If you haven’t experienced this yet, have this heads-up: there will be a lot of unfairness and injustice when dealing with an unfair person. So, I created guiding principles of putting our child’s needs above my want for fairness in the co-parenting situation. I always put our child first, even if it is not fair to me. I trust that one day she will see the sacrifices I made because I love her more than I resent the narcissist; this is something he is too selfish to do. We can be the better parent, take the high road, and set a good example. We can also be the change we would like to see and create peace.
20. Learn how to ignore some things the narcissist does or doesn’t do. Ignoring was a key coping skill that I needed to implement because I always wanted to take action and fix, save, and rescue: this made me hyper-vigilant, overactive, and on guard. It was a heightened state of mental emergency that led to burnout and serious stress. So, where it’s smart to do so, learn to ignore. You can document instead of addressing things, but check with your lawyer if you are unsure what should be addressed. It may be wise to start ignoring anything the narcissist says unless it’s of the utmost importance for the child’s welfare. Ignoring can help us regulate our emotions. Remember: Don’t let your emotions show to the narcissist. My DV counselor helped me learn to compartmentalize my life so that I wasn’t always battling the narcissist, but had a life outside of family court. We don’t have to get sucked into the narcissist’s drama. Generally, we do not respond unless a question is asked about the child. If we have to respond, we can train ourselves to keep it short and polite. This is strategically setting some self-rules and self-boundaries. We work with our weaknesses and set up some strengths.
21. Learn. Educate yourself on narcissists and how to handle them. Knowledge is power. I read several books on boundaries and co-parenting with a narcissist. I watched hundreds of YouTube videos on dealing with a narcissist. An education helps and assures us that we have the ability to learn, heal, change, and outgrow our problems of the past. This is us stepping into our competence and abilities. They, unfortunately, are typically doomed to repeat their toxic self with the next unsuspecting victim.
22. Don’t defend. It’s not always a good idea to defend ourselves against the narcissist’s lies and accusations, no matter how outlandish they may be. It puts us on the defensive and our energy gets consumed. Rather, document the false allegations and keep track while simply saying, “That’s not true.” Learn about the broken record technique. It’s a communication skill that drains the narcissist and helps us preserve our energy. Defending is being part of a fight. Don’t fight to get them to see the harm they do and the good mom you are. Quite often, they know, they just don’t care. Whenever you think they can’t go lower—they very often will! So, also, don’t underestimate them. If invited to a word fight, decline. Don’t participate in their shenanigans. We do not have to engage in debates. We don’t have to take the bait if the narcissist is actively trying to lure us in to get the supply they want. We can be aware and not fall for it!
23. Develop a strong sense of self—and keep it. When we know who we are, we are less likely to be thrown off, manipulated, or upset about what the narcissist says about us. Our support people can help us establish this. We have to maintain ourselves to prepare for whatever the narcissist may throw our way.
24. Be consistent. Establishing a regular routine not only helps our children, but also helps us stay organized. Find a way to keep this simple too. When we can organize their disorder, we have an upper-hand.
25. Don’t have reasonable expectations for an unreasonable person. A conversation may not stay civil. The narcissist probably won’t follow court orders to a “T” like we will. They probably won’t pay child support or pick the child up on time. They most likely won’t stay child-focused and think about the child’s best interests—ONLY theirs. We can watch out for expectations, and refrain from expecting anything. We can have a self-rule of not relying on them for anything and not divulging any personal information. We don’t have to take any bait. This tip can help us keep our emotions calm.
BONUS 26. Live your life! We have earned our freedom and can grant ourselves happiness. We can ensure that our house, apartment, or living space reflects that. We can turn our focus onto our relationship with our kid and away from the narcissist. We can show our children that we will always be in their corner and not continuously distracted and distraught by their dad.
Control the Crazy Communication with a Narcissistic Co-Parent Using Self-Control
It’s no secret that for protective moms, we can lose sleep and custody battles when communication goes awry and we get dragged under by the narcissist. Some moms only have communication through a court-admissible app and block the narcissist on everything else. (I chose to leave text open for emergencies.) Many have a parenting plan that says to use the app to keep communication civil and strictly about the child or children. If you begin complaining about multiple bad messages from the narcissist, you may be able to show them in court, as the app doesn’t let you delete messages. Sometimes the app doesn’t make anything easier, but can help in court. In some cases, third-parties can log in and read the messaging if assigned by the courts. Moms who catch on to the ongoing tug–of–war dynamic don’t reactively engage, but rather, proceed with indifference.
Some moms set a self-rule of only responding if there is a question mark. They use only written forms of communication like text and email for proof of conversations should the narcissist deny being informed. They don’t talk on the phone or in person. They keep conversations business-like and non-personal. After dealing with a narcissist, they have someone they trust to vent to. (I call this “bookending” the dealings with a nasty narcissist.) Many times, I had to prepare with someone like a narcissistic abuse coach and then deal with the aftermath and boundary backlash with my DV counselor. It took the narcissist a while to adjust to the changed version of me. I no longer was a push-over, doormat, or people-pleaser. The solid legal representation helped empower me.
Learn about narcissists so that you don’t have high or unrealistic expectations. There are books and many free YouTube videos by expert psychologists; I recommend a few in the back of my books. Learn how to communicate with high-conflict people who are everywhere in the world.
Finally, please know that you are not alone. My mission is to help support loving, caring, motivated mothers who are forced to co-parent with a narcissist. We must maintain our sanity, SAVE our custody cases, and enjoy our children’s one-and-only childhood. Through teaching my skillful means of navigating the narcissist, sharing my story (to validate what you may be experiencing), and writing down effective tips, tools, and strategies that I used (find these in my books, videos, and blogs), I aim to offer you wisdom and the hope that we can improve a bad co-parenting situation. Even more so, we can come out smarter and stronger than before. We can become wiser and more aware—and not just go through this, but grow through this!
Begin reading some of my helpful books or blogs for moms below.
xo – Grace
Helpful Books for Moms in Custody Battles and Co-Parenting with a Narcissist:
I write for moms who are forced to co-parent with narcissists and stuck in high-conflict custody battles. If this is you, you don’t have to feel so alone!
My books can validate what you may be experiencing, and give you creative ways to improve your co-parenting conditions. I include all my tips, tools, and strategies for moms to grab onto in my books.
You see… there are healthy attitudes to adopt, mindsets to make solid, sanity to hold onto, as well as, beneficial perspectives that can really help us endure this dilemma and survive a custody battle.
Learn all that you can because knowledge is power. Be prepared with survivor wisdom. My goal is to leave you with tidbits of wisdom and lots of encouragement. Know that you can endure and be resilient. Believe in yourself. Remember to learn the valuable lessons in this and come out smarter and stronger than before!
*Suggestion: Read my book series in the order written for full understanding.
Book 1: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: 7 Self-Rules to Stay Sane
Book 2: How To Fight a Narcissist in Family Court and Win
Book 3: Co-Parenting with a Sociopath: Survival and Sanity Guide
Book 4: How To Survive a Custody Battle with a Narcissist: When the Family Courts Force You to Co-Parent
*Disclaimer: These are helpful tips based solely on the author’s thoughts and opinions. The author is not a qualified mental health professional nor a crisis caseworker. She cannot give legal advice or appropriate counsel and is, therefore, not liable for any injury or harm. Please follow the advice of your doctor, therapist, counselor, and lawyer, as well as your own common sense and intuition based on your unique case to see if these tips could be helpful. Child custody situations vary, so some of these tips will not be applicable to your circumstance. Furthermore, court orders may dictate otherwise. Please use your own judgment when reviewing this document. This is for personal self-help only. These suggestions were created from the author’s own lived experience and not based on any laws or rules of the courts. This is copyright-protected by the author and is not to be sold, distributed, or quoted without the author’s written consent.
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