By Grace Wroldson, author of (Books available at Amazon),
-Book 1: Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: 7 Self-Rules to Stay Sane
-Book 2: How To Fight a Narcissist In Family Court and Win
-Book 3: Co-parenting with a Sociopath: Survival and Sanity Guide
-Book 4: How To Survive a Custody Battle with a Narcissist: When the Family Courts Force You to Co-Parent
-Book 5: Tame the Narcissist!: 10 Keys for Better Co-parenting to Create Peace and Protection Using Strategy & Skillful-Means
-Book 6: Wisdom for Ending the Co-Parenting War & a Custody Battle with a Narcissist: So You Can Heal and Be Able to Help Your Child
We enter the realm of new possibilities for our co-parenting and custody battles with a narcissist by exploring the idea of using the practice/principle of non-resistance (*in some situations and phases).
Think of this scenario:
We want something for our child or our child needs something. The court order says to consult the other parent, so we ask the narcissist. However, this is a frustrating task. We aren’t surprised when he says “no” or refuses to even answer us. It also isn’t surprising to us when the narcissist does the exact opposite of our request. Now, we feel like we have to fight for our child’s rights and the right to be a parent. Then, this turns into a legal issue, and our attorney says that court motions have to be filed—again! Ugh! Sound familiar?
We only have so much energy as busy moms!
Let me ask you:
Would you like to change your co-parenting struggles and stop custody battles? How about trying some non-resistance principles instead of fighting? While the “Skillful-Means Strategy” may take some time to take effect, this tool (of non-resistance) can have instant results.
- If you don’t want to run away and leave your kids with the narcissist, to most likely be narcissistically abused and survive a life with a selfish parent who lacks empathy…
- If you don’t want to fight, fight, fight in family court over custody and parenting plans—until the lawyers are richer and you are financially devastated…
- If you are ready to step out of all-or-nothing and black-and-white thinking and into long-term strategies of learning how to let go of small stuff and co-exist with the narcissist…
- If you are looking for a third “middle way” of dealing with a narcissistic ex and exiting a custody battle…
This is where the use of skillful means and non-resistance comes in handy!
Surprisingly, the use of non-resistance, while sounding very passive and docile, is actually very powerful—as I will explain. To start you on this learning adventure of an alternative to fighting a narcissist, I will go over these three things:
- What is non-resistance?
- What it is not.
- Some examples to explain the dynamic so that you can see the energy exchange (and possibly see yourself in this dark dance).
Q: How does non-resistance stop the narcissist?*
Answer: There is no more fuel/fight added to the mix.
Key: The use of non-resistance can spare us some sanity.
If you are in a push/pull battle or a tug-of-war with a narcissistic ex, (over the care of children), while getting exhausted and drained, then it may be time to deploy peace-promoting strategies to save your sanity. Your sanity is key. When you are sane, you can think logically. Neuroscientists who study regions of the brain have discovered that when we are emotional, we lose access to the logical reasoning part of our brain. We need access to the best problem-solving parts of our brain to be able to navigate all the narcissist throws at us, along with all the challenges.
LEARN MORE IN MY BOOK!
To read this full explanation, and how this might apply and help your situation, please support me as a self-published author and buy book # 6:
ON AMAZON!- Got a narcissistic ex?
- Trying to co-parent?
- Are you tired of fighting with a narcissist?
- Feeling drained from a costly, high-conflict family court custody battle?
- Ready to try a new path towards peace?
- Willing to try something new?
Peace is possible! When well-meaning people tell you what to do, but it doesn’t work, it’s time to get Grace’s valuable survivor wisdom. Grace teaches that there is another alternative approach to dealing with a narcissist as your co-parent. When you don’t want to completely give up your child/children, but also, don’t want to fight a legal battle to the bitter end of exhaustion (or financial devastation), there may be another “middle way” for you that needs to be skillfully navigated.
In this 6th book for moms who are required to co-parent with a narcissist, you will learn from the author’s hard-won tips, tools, strategies and get her:
SurThriver Tips
-Keys to turning a bad co-parenting situation around—or making it a little bit better
-Innovative ways to stay out of conflict and court with her “Customer Service Friendly Front Strategy”.
-How to carve a path to possible negotiations with a narcissist
-Ideas to position yourself for cooperation, goodwill, and peace
-Understanding of why following “The Golden Rule” still matters
-Advanced good karma creation techniques that make co-parenting possible
-What being a non-threat, threat to narcissistic supply is useful for
-Know how to spot and stop narcissistic abuse tactics and not step into set traps
-Why having the right lawyer can help you get your rights, your child’s rights, and stop some narcissistic nonsense.
Launch new hope for yourself as a mom. Find guidance by reading Grace’s real-life personal stories (a mom who staged a comeback and overcame many family court failures). As a reader, you will feel validated and relieved knowing you aren’t alone in the struggle and stress. If you are in a co-parenting dilemma and feeling stuck in the narcissist-empath dynamic be led to important insights that can result in drastically changed thinking—which changes outcomes. Learn to be the change you want to see!
Grace’s goal is to educate, empower and encourage supportive, safe, and loving moms. Get courage through connection and learn to maintain your power while being brave and bold using strategy and skillful-means.
Grace says, “Work with wisdom and lead with love! Always remember that our love for our child/children is bigger than the narcissist!”
Learn. Heal. & OutGrow the Narcissist!
-In Your Corner -Grace
P.S. Here is a longer sample of what you will find in my book about non-resistance on a YouTube video webinar.
P.S.S. Want to learn about the use of my “Skillful-Means Strategy?” Buy my guide here.
Grace Wroldson’s –How to Communicate with a Narcissist
*DISCLAIMER:
Thank you for reading! I’m not a therapist or licensed professional. I’m not an attorney. This is not legal or therapeutic advice. I am, like you, a mom-survivor. I share opinions, personal research, and hope for a better future. The articles and books (and free videos) that I write are for awareness/educational purposes only—not intended to be a substitute for medical, clinical, legal, or professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please seek the advice of a licensed mental health professional, attorney, or other qualified provider for your custody case. Each custody case and family situation is different and needs a tailored approach with strategies that are specific to the issues you face and the phase you are in. I encourage you to establish support. Getting help is a sign of strength—not weakness.
